Friday, October 07, 2005

Not Rhetorical

When is a betrayal unforgiveable? Does the line change depending on the level of intimacy (emotional, not necessarily physical) in the relationship? If the betrayed person decides to extend forgiveness, how can trust ever be rebuilt? When does it become foolish to grant the betrayer a second chance?

5 Comments:

At 12:23 PM , Blogger Megarita said...

This is the 10K question, isn't it? I think anything's forgiveable if you really really really can forgive AND forget. I'm kind of sketchy on the last part, so I tend to be harsh. Can you ever trust them again? Might just take time, or it might take a miracle. I tend to be a grudge holding wench, but not everyone's so mean!

Good luck, though, if this is about you...

 
At 12:42 AM , Blogger EEP said...

I concur with your other friend. That's the big question. Practical advice? Don't be me.
The line does change on the degree of intimacy in the relationship, and the reasonable expectations of the parties.
It becomes foolish when you know you're being taken advantage of, and no steps are ever made to both correct the behavior, and repair the damage that has been done.

 
At 7:31 PM , Blogger Washington Cube said...

You can forgive, but can you trust again? Highly doubtful.

Washington Cube Was Here. #268

 
At 1:33 AM , Blogger Kunstem√¶cker said...

I don't want to sound too black and white, but I don't think I would be able to forgive her.

If you cannot respect your partner in your relationship, don't be in one.

I've never betrayed anyone, but I have once been betrayed and I tell you: it hurts like hell.

 
At 10:08 AM , Blogger Rebecca said...

I think it just depends on the level of betrayal, and only you can decide whether or not you can forgive a particular instance. There are some things I would work to forgive and forget about, and some things that are just deal breakers and I'd never get over them. I can honestly say though that I can forgive without forgetting...I can't see myself forgetting if someone does something really hurtful, but I can still forgive.

I think it just takes time...at some point you'll know if you can get past it or not. I agree with Eep also...are steps being taken so it doesn't happen again?

Take care...Rebecca

 

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